Here's the thing... I love taking selfies. If you've seen my Instagram feed, then you already know that. People get a lot of shit for taking selfies. I get a lot of shit for taking selfies. Now that I'm repeatedly saying the word "selfie," I'm realizing how much I fucking hate the word.
Are selfies vain? Of course they're fucking vain! Of course they are. I'm literally taking a picture of my face. And you know what? I like my face. I think I'm a pretty gal. Is that wrong to think? Is it wrong to have a healthy image of yourself? No, it's not. Is it wrong to put it out there? No, it's not. But yes, it's vain. And maybe annoying. But guess what? I'm vain. (And maybe annoying.) Everybody's a little bit vain. In fact, most people are a lot bit vain.
I used to really dislike myself. (That's a fancy word for "hate.") The high school version of me was nothing like today's version. She was depressed, she wore a lot of black sweatshirts and sweatpants that were oversized and advertised the Gap, she would pine for a better life instead of actively trying to make the one she had better. What a dummy.
Then I started taking pictures of myself.. and I started liking myself a little bit more. I started having a little more confidence. I started to focus on the positive and less on the negative. I accentuated the features I liked (my eyes, my nose, my hair, my cheekbones) and less on the things I used to ONLY see when I looked in the mirror (the wrinkles under my eyes, my thin lips, my blotchy skin.) It helped me to see myself in a different, way more positive light. I don't take or post pictures because I'm totally in love with myself or because I think I'm perfect... but I do like myself. I feel good about myself. I also don't post pictures so other people can give me attention... although, I'll admit, it's a plus. Because like I said before, I'm vain. I'm vain as fuck!
So, that's why I support "selfies." And if you take a selfie of yourself, I will always like it. To let you know that I support you. It helps me focus on the positive and feel good about myself for five minutes out of a day before I go back to being hard on myself due to a myriad of other things. If you don't like it when I do it, or if you don't understand why I do it, then fine. Unfollow me. Scroll past me. Go ahead and be negative because you're the only person it's weighing down. You dumb asshole. (I'm sorry for that. That was harsh.)
If you want to take a picture of yourself, don't be afraid. Just put on a little bit of mascara. Hold your camera at the right angle. Put your lips into a duck bill formation. (Just kidding. The surprised face is all the rage today.) And snap away! Be unapologetic! (May I recommend taking it in Instagram so the image doesn't flip? If you take it with your actual camera, it'll flip the image and your face will look like a disproportionate mess.) (You won't think positively of yourself if your face is a disproportionate mess.) (Trust me.)