I totally wish I could be one of those girls that doesn't give a shit (if those girls actually exist) but at the end of the day, I hope people like me. It's important to me. I try to be a good person, I try to care about people... and if there are people I don't care for, then I don't care if they like me. But the general population? Sure, I give a shit!
Now that I've been in a new job for a few months now, I've learned some ways to make people like you. They might seem forced coming from other people, but I've noticed things that other people do to get me to like them, too. I'm sure they're not doing it so I like them, but it sure is a quality I respect in them that ultimately leads to my liking them! Make sense? Never. I never make sense.
Do I think we should live our lives pleasing other people? Absolutely not. But, if you're around people all the time... it's probably a good idea to at least make an attempt to enjoy each other's company. Being at work isn't always the easiest, but it's a whole lot better when you're around people you like (and who like you back.)
Here's how to make people like you:
(subject to change and not work and not be a realistic approach to getting people to like you)
- When in a situation where the TLC Pandora station can be put on, always put on the TLC Pandora station. Old school 90's jams are the way to people's hearts.
- Be a responsive person. If someone waves at you, or smiles at you, or says "Hey" - wave/smile/say "Hey" back. That seems easy, but it's not. Some people are weird and don't smile and I don't get that. Sure, we don't all have to be friends - but I'm recognizing that you exist and you're in front of me and we kind of know each other, shouldn't you acknowledge that as well?
- Brownies. Always brownies. Cupcakes sometimes, but brownies always. (They don't call them "brownie points" for nothing! Actually, that has nothing to do with it, but whatever. Moving on.)
- Be yourself. People are bound to like you just the way you are (like Mark Darcy liked Bridget Jones.) If you're fake or trying too hard to be something you're not, it's obvious. If you don't like Beyonce and a bunch of people are talking about how crazy they are for Beyonce - don't say how much you love her and try to explain, in great detail, exactly why. On the other hand, you probably shouldn't say "I hate her" and explain, in great detail, exactly why when getting to know people either. Just be yourself... but don't be rude.
- Compliments. Even if it's, "HEY! COOL HAT!" (I don't know what the situation would be where you would say that.) I always feel 10x better when people compliment me, even if it's "Your voice is so deep!" (I get that one a lot.) And I can bet other people feel great about it, too.
- Kiss them. This is for a select few people you want to like you, but you better believe I have found myself in situations where I just kissed people and it lead to great things. Real great things. Like eventually buying a cat with a person. Those kind of great things. (Get your mind out of the gutter!)